Trauma Identity

Usually, when someone is unhappy with their own behaviour patterns or recurring unwanted emotions, they eventually end up in therapy, hoping to discover why these patterns exist. After several rounds of inner digging—exploring childhood memories, searching for trauma, maybe even visiting shamans or going on plant-medicine journeys—one finally uncovers a story that seems to explain it all.

And then something interesting happens.

The trauma becomes not just an explanation… but an identity.

Instead of fixing the unwanted behaviour, the person begins to justify it.

For example, someone who is afraid to be alone may discover that they were repeatedly left behind by their parents in early childhood. Suddenly, the fear feels “logical,” even familiar. And because it feels logical, it also feels allowed. The fear becomes normalized.

Rather than transforming the behaviour, the person starts to explain it—to themselves and to others.

“I’m like this because of my childhood.”

“I can’t help it; it’s my trauma.”

Ironically, this doesn’t heal anything.

It imprints the behaviour even more deeply into their identity.

If you want to work on your trauma and heal it, I recommend you try one of our therapy methods HERE.

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Stay safe!
Igor Earthchild

Learn2touch.com